This article answers your 2nd question https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2010...-fall-of-rome/
Not to be Reliant on a Man for anything .... hmmm....
Do you want to be Reliant on anyone or do you want to be able to be Independent, Empowered & Self-Determining? I think until we live in a World where Men & Women both are brought up to exist in this way, we wont get rid of the Inequalities & Inequities that come with our hierarchical Gender orders. I'm for tossing out Traditional roles and letting the Individuals decide how they want to format their Lives. Give them all the Knowledge/Skills and let them decide where it takes them.
We are not equal. Saying we are is like sticking our heads in the sand. Some people are better at some things than others and some groups are generally better at some things than other groups. That's just the way it is.I think until we live in a World where Men & Women both are brought up to exist in this way, we wont get rid of the Inequalities & Inequities that come with our hierarchical Gender orders.
Trying to force unequal things to be equal won't work. All you'll accomplish is destroying humanity. Two complements fit together and make one. Two identical items clash. Therefore, egalitarianism is divisive. Forcing everyone to be the same just divides the people, as you can see.... America hasn't been this divided in a long time.
You can choose to refuse the truth, but you can't choose to refuse the consequences.
That's fine. If a man wants the traditional female role, fine with me. What I'm complaining about is the widespread, general assertion that gender means nothing and women are oppressed. We don't need groups of feminists preaching for new recruits, sitcoms propagandizing their feminist agenda, news outlets crying about lack of female representation in congress, universities boohooing about lack of female engineers, etc.I'm for tossing out Traditional roles and letting the Individuals decide how they want to format their Lives. Give them all the Knowledge/Skills and let them decide where it takes them.
On a personal note, an 18 yr old daughter of a friend of mine spent what seemed like forever explaining why she had to uproot herself and move away from the family who will worry about her just so she can get a degree from some university and then apply to veterinary school, just to spend another 4 years before having to work under another vet until she can finally pay down that massive student debt and get her own clinic and fulfill her dream... by then she'll be pushing 40. Btw she's pregnant and argues with her guy, defending her right to move away. I told her, "Have you considered being a domestic engineer? That seems SO much easier than going through ALL that crap. Why not learn to cook and plan to spend time with your son while doing the domestic chores while your man is at work at a business he already owns? That's what I would consider."
It's like women sacrifice everything... their kids' upbringing, their family, their relationships, just to storm off and prove they can make it on their own. Good for you! Here's your prize: Your son grew up a delinquent, your mother rotted away, your husband can't stand you, you've made lots of capitalists rich along the way and now you're an old hag with a dozen cats. Good job! Well, at least Ernest would be happy a woman asserted her right to be "equal".
Why can't we support her dreams? Being pregnant is not going to make it easier for her to reach them but where is all the support? Her Family, Partner, Friends? To me this seems like a huge part of the whole situation. Everyone just looking at it from a negative point of view. Why not look at the positive ones like her age, goals, health ...
It sounds like with the right support & encouragement, things in the long run will work out better for everyone, No? Why give up on your Dreams when you're basically a baby yourself (18)? Maybe she is trying to prove something but wouldn't that be because of a lack in confidence/support from her family? Or maybe she's just determined to follow her dreams. Why deny her of that?
Yes you're right I support Everyone's Dreams. Everyone should have the EQUAL opportunities to achieve them. We may not all be the Same but we most definitely deserve to be Equal.