Also I just wanted to talk about something here. If you were part of a Community and you held certain views that some might consider Disrespectful & Offensive, would you feel offended if they disagreed with you about how you expressed them? And if you would be, why would it bother you so much that a significant portion of the Community wouldn't feel like giving to much time & effort on certain views that they feel offer no productive ends. If they see it as just Combative behavior, why would you not support them in their dissension? Kind of like Agree to Disagree..
Why would you instead go off on various tangents about how they are so 'Hateful & Oppressive just because they pointed out some of your views that were Irritating to hear? They are basically saying to you to show some respect & civility in the Community but instead you see it like they were coming for you with the pitch forks. Do you honor the ethical standards in the Community or do you try to enforce a new way of doing things that Everyone should just accept irrespective of what Community standards have already been in place and generally followed by Most in the Community? Is it no wonder why such display of opposing views would cause such discomfort within the Community then ..
This hypothetical Thought Experiment might help in our understanding of what goes on in these type of scenarios.